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In this guided meditation, Will Schneider offers a three-step process aimed at fostering forgiveness for ourselves and others.
Forgiveness stands as a fundamental aspect of mindfulness practice, yet it often presents one of the greatest challenges.
Granting forgiveness, whether to others or ourselves, requires a level of awareness and openness that can be quite uncomfortable, particularly when we bear the weight of stories filled with shame, anger, or resentment tied to those experiences.
In this guided meditation, Will Schneider from Men Talking Mindfulness leads us through a practice centered on kindness, grace, and letting go, aiming to help us navigate life with greater ease.
A Forgiveness Meditation to Connect With Your Heart
Follow the guided meditation script provided below, taking pauses as necessary after each paragraph. Alternatively, you can choose to listen to the audio version.
As you embark on this meditation, remember that the goal is not to force forgiveness. Engage with this process at your own comfort level. Instead of delving into the most profound wounds, focus on experiences that register around a level of four to six on a scale of one to ten. This meditation can be particularly effective in alleviating stress, anxiety, or feelings of depression, guiding you to relax physically and mentally, and to embrace the present moment rather than being burdened by associated shame or guilt from past events.
To begin, find a comfortable position. You may choose to lie down, ensuring you remain alert, or sit upright in a dignified manner.
The meditation comprises three segments. Strive to approach each part from a heartfelt place within you, shedding expectations, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and authentic.
Start by focusing on your breath to deepen your experience in the present moment. You might place a hand over your heart to cultivate awareness of your heart’s energy, which can facilitate this practice of forgiveness. Move your shoulders and head to release any tension and take several deep breaths to calm your nervous system. Shift your attention to your breath, inhaling deeply and exhaling slowly. You can gently wiggle your jaw or take these initial moments to foster comfort in your body, tuning into your breath and bodily sensations without judgment.
Next, recall a moment when you may have hurt someone else. This does not need to be a deeply personal incident; it could be a minor moment such as cutting someone off in traffic or being curt with a cashier. Visualize this person clearly, and from a heart-centered place, repeat to them: I am sorry. Please allow me to be imperfect. Please allow me to make mistakes. Please allow me to be a learner, still learning life’s lessons. Please forgive me. Please forgive me. If you cannot forgive me now, I hope you can someday.
Pause here for a few heartbeats, focusing on your breath. Use the breath as a tool to release and detach energetically, reconnecting with your heart.
Now, let’s shift to reflect on ways in which someone has caused you harm. Again, keep this within that four to six range. Express through your heartfelt space that Just as I am willing to allow myself to be imperfect, I allow you to be imperfect. I allow you to make mistakes. I allow you to be a learner, still learning life’s lessons. I forgive you. I forgive you. If I cannot forgive you now, may I forgive you in the future.
Take a moment with your breath again. Rest your hand over your heart to deepen this heartfelt experience, using your breath to relax and release.
Lastly, let’s extend forgiveness to ourselves. Think about ways you may have caused yourself harm, starting with something minor. Share these heartfelt words with yourself: I allow myself to be imperfect. I allow myself to make mistakes. I allow myself to be a learner, still learning life’s lessons. I forgive myself. I forgive myself. If I cannot forgive myself now, may I forgive myself in the future.
Spend a few more moments with your breath, taking deeper inhales. Fill yourself with forgiveness and love, allowing the opportunity to release what no longer serves you. Let go of it all. It need not remain a part of you. Take a couple more breaths, feeling the flow of forgiveness and love, and allow yourself to release.
I trust you are feeling lighter following this meditation. Gradually return to your surroundings at your own pace. Recognize that you are not required to hold onto past burdens that obstruct your brilliance and your inherent light. Thank you for participating in this meditation and for sharing your light with the world. Wishing you a wonderful day ahead.
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