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In 2025, for many pop stars, creating a playful song about attraction alongside charismatic backup dancers might seem like standard fare. However, for David Archuleta, the journey to embracing his true self has been a profound experience. Displaying a newfound confidence in the enchanting video for his track “Crème Brulée”, Archuleta’s evolution in self-acceptance is a powerful story. Rising to fame on American Idol in 2008, Archuleta was raised in a Mormon family within the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, grappling with his sexuality. His journey became public in 2021, when he came out as part of the LGBTQ+ community, and in 2022, he announced his departure from the church, highlighting the complexity of his experiences.
Archuleta, now 34, has been vocal about his journey through his music. The poignant track “Hell Together” was inspired by his mother’s decision to leave the church as well, expressing a wish for a place where her children felt embraced. Archuleta emphasizes that coming out involves significantly more than merely disclosing one’s truth; it is a gradual process that includes healing and self-love. He remarked, “I had made myself smaller because I was so afraid that people were going to see me for who I was. Now, I get to express myself freely and fully without reservations.”
A recent social media post resonated with Archuleta, humorously observing that many LGBTQ+ individuals in their 30s behave like teenagers after years of suppressing their true selves. Archuleta reflected on his own experiences, recounting how serious he was during his adolescence and early adulthood as he adhered strictly to familial and religious expectations. He often redirected his energies toward maintaining an image that distanced him from the reality of his queer identity. The idea of allowing himself to be vulnerable felt threatening, leading him to suppress his true nature.
Today, Archuleta feels revitalized, embracing a youthful spirit. However, he acknowledges that overcoming internal fears is an ongoing journey that requires reshaping one’s mindset. He expresses gratitude for friends who have previously navigated similar experiences, generously sharing their knowledge and compassion. With two friends named Kevin from different states, he has begun to explore the intricacies of same-sex relationships, seeking insights into topics such as dating, intimacy, and overcoming societal guilt.
Growing up with ingrained teachings around sexuality left Archuleta with significant misconceptions. He reflects on disturbing narratives, including beliefs that linked homosexuality to the AIDS epidemic. Through positive interactions with the queer community, he has learned about health precautions and the possibility of loving, long-term partnerships, which contradicts the harmful stereotypes he absorbed during his upbringing.
“What I love about identifying as queer is that there’s no one exact mold you have to fit,” he shared. While dating has always presented challenges for him, Archuleta has finally begun to understand his own attractions and chemistry with others. This new phase of his life brings an opportunity to experience companionship in ways he never considered before, including the joy of casual flirting and the thrill of getting to know different people.
Archuleta acknowledges that desires for connection can vary significantly among individuals, adding a layer of complexity to dating dynamics. His song “Crème Brulée” captures these nuances, marking a departure from his past constraints. He states, “I was still in my conservative mindset: I need to be modest. I can’t show too much skin.”
Through engaging with dance and performance, Archuleta discovered the liberating feeling of connecting with his body and expressing himself. This newfound physicality and confidence encourage him to embrace a more playful approach to life, allowing him to release pent-up energy and inspire others to do the same.
Archuleta has also found joy in queer communal spaces, likening them to the church dances of his youth, but with the added excitement of modern nightlife. He enjoys the vibrant atmosphere of clubs and raves, where societal norms feel less stifling. However, he calls for more inclusive environments that welcome people of all gender identities, celebrating the diverse spectrum of being queer. He expresses admiration for events like Gorgeous Gorgeous, which target a broader range of attendees.
As he reflects, Archuleta often wishes he could present his younger self with a glimpse of his current life, recognizing that the concept of “queer joy” may have been lost on his earlier self. He is currently working on a book aimed at answering the questions he believes his younger self would have had, addressing the complexities of his identity and the strength needed to embrace it fully.
Ultimately, Archuleta acknowledges that not everyone will understand or support his journey. He emphasizes that acceptance of this reality is crucial, and that living authentically is the greatest source of joy. His path may not have been easy, but the greatest lesson he carries forward is the liberating power of living without fear.
As shared in conversation.
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