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“Engaging in correspondence is an act of trust, and that is what makes it so beautiful,” reflects Rachel Syme, author of Syme’s Letter Writer: A Guide to Modern Correspondence. “You may never know if the recipient will respond.”
The tradition of writing letters remains vibrant and meaningful. During the initial stages of the pandemic, Rachel Syme, a staff writer for The New Yorker, experienced a profound need for connection. In an effort to nurture this connection, she reached out to her social media followers, offering the opportunity to become pen pals.
“My call for pen pals received 300 replies,” she notes. Realizing she could not correspond with everyone, she launched a letter-exchanging initiative called PenPalooza, which has now grown to a community of over 10,000 members.
This initiative led to a renewed passion for letter writing, bringing unexpected joy to Syme’s life. She states, “I am continually delighted by what arrives in my mailbox—expressions of creativity, intimacy, truthfulness, and exquisite writing.”
These experiences inspired her latest book, Syme’s Letter Writer: A Guide to Modern Correspondence, released in January. This guide offers practical advice on how to discover pen pals and compose engaging letters, featuring examples from renowned writers such as Octavia Butler and Zelda Fitzgerald to spark creativity.
Syme provides both practical and imaginative ideas for cultivating a letter-writing habit.
Finding a Pen Pal is Easier Than You Think. Begin with friends and family. If you’re eager to connect with new individuals, consider asking your social media network if anyone would like to exchange letters. Syme suggests a simple message: “I’d love to write you a letter.” You might be surprised by how many responses you receive.
Embrace Conversation About the Weather. Many people apologize for beginning their letters with weather discussions, thinking it’s dull, but Syme highlights that such topics can reveal personal insights. As noted by South African writer Bessie Head, “The mood of the weather began to explain many other things for me. I think the mind picks on anything to explain the brooding of the heart.”
Explore Writing Prompts Beyond Daily Updates. Instead of merely sharing what’s new, Syme encourages using creative prompts. Questions like “What’s your favorite life hack?” or “What’s the most extravagant impulse purchase you’ve made?” can ignite engaging correspondence. Alternatively, sketch a map of your usual walking route adorned with cherished memories, or create a fun Mad Libs for your recipient to complete. Visuals, such as Polaroids or personal recipes, can add excitement to your letters as well.
Include Thoughtful Additions in Your Letters. Consider enclosing small items that fit in your envelope, such as stickers, pressed flowers, tea bags, or even a whimsical lottery ticket. Just be mindful of mailing regulations and check the guidelines here.
Experiment with Different Types of Paper. Syme creatively uses postcards, vintage hotel stationery, and even pink legal paper—her nod to author Jacqueline Susann—when composing letters. Other inventive options include paper napkins, recycled office materials, or tissue paper from gift bags.
Think About Using a Typewriter. If you struggle with handwriting or want a break from screens, using a typewriter can be an appealing alternative. Syme emphasizes that once you feel the tactile feedback of the keys, it’s hard to return to digital typing.
Document Your Correspondence. As you write letters, you’re building an archive. However, Syme mentions the irony of not seeing the mutual collection of letters you’re creating with others. She suggests taking photographs of your letters for your own keepsake.
Acceptance of the Ephemeral Nature of Correspondence. Though the excitement of beginning a new letter exchange can be thrilling, relationships can alter over time. Syme urges not to feel disheartened if a correspondence fades; if one or both individuals are no longer fully invested, it may be time to allow it to conclude.
In the end, remember that “correspondence is an act of faith, and that’s part of its charm,” Syme concludes. “You may never know if the person you’re writing to will respond.”
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